Eliza, I read the same book, and ironically it helped me! lol, but everyone is in a different place. And yes, I am certainly not immune to being terrified at the possibility of another loss by some other means. A friend online told me that the "odds" are with me that I will not experience another loss, but we won the unlucky lottery with Henry's birth complications (which only supposedly happen in 0.1% of breach births, which only make up 3 -4% of birth totals anyway) and that hasn't been much comfort..
I constantly obsess over what can happen to this baby and frankly I dont have the answers about what to do to make that go away. I think distraction is a big one, support, prayer for those that put stock in that. But the bottom line is that we don't have control over what will happen. We just do our best finding the best doctors and hospitals we can find and afford, we avoid things that may harm our babies inside of us and I truly believe that 99% of this is just up to chance. I'm not a religious person, but the phrase "Let go and let God" has given me a tiny bit of comfort -- because I'm just a mother who loves her children, and though I want to have the power over life and death I simply do not.
recognizing importance of letting go of a false sense of control