ID:
012a
Type of Post:
comment
Keywords:
belief
Religious Affiliation:
atheist
Type of Loss:
neonatal death at 1 day old due to premature birth at 26 weeks
Codes (Bakker):
Age at time of post:
late 30s
Living children at time of post?:
yes
Time Since Loss:
3 years, 6 months(April 2005)
Months since loss (at time of post):
42
Gender:
F
Images in Post:
NA
Date of Post:
10/17/2008
Date of Access:
6/12/2012
Number of Comments:
NA
URL of post:
http://www.glowinthewoods.com/home/2008/10/16/you-keep-on-walking.html#comments
we had a very similar backyard ceremony for our son. and i did sometimes wish i were able to believe in something that might make me feel more connected to him, that might allow me to feel i'd see him again someday, but each time my mind danced over that possibility it came up barren and dry...so in a sense his death coalesced my lack of belief, assured me that this was indeed my core inclination.
there is something profound, for me, in that, though, and something beautiful...because all is heightened - memory included - by the sense that moments with others may be a one-off, a one0time privilege.
Codes (Paris):
Comments (Bakker):
negative example of code 4: author fails to find meaning or comfort in religion