Author: 
Michelle (b)
ID: 
032a
Type of Post: 
discussion
Keywords: 
God, beliefs, prayer
Religious Affiliation: 
Christian
Type of Loss: 
stillbirth or neonatla death due to premature birth at 21 weeks
Codes (Bakker): 
Age at time of post: 
unknown
Living children at time of post?: 
no
Time Since Loss: 
7 months (Aug. 2011)
Months since loss (at time of post): 
7
Gender: 
F
Images in Post: 
NA
Date of Post: 
3/20/2012
Date of Access: 
6/21/2012
Number of Comments: 
NA
URL of post: 
http://www.glowinthewoods.com/discussion/post/1760921

Anon, I struggle with this too. bah ask forgiveness. I think like others said that's just silly. I think it's perfectly okay to be pissed, angry and question beliefs.

Most of the time I find little to no support from God. I'm still in so much pain. I'm still struggling with loss and infertility. I continue to pray and sincerly try not to pray just selfishly. There are so many who are hurting. I'm angry that I don't feel guided by God and that my prayers haven't been answered.

That being said, I believe in God. I just can't let go of that belief. It's part of me. I guess God is a part of me. A big part of me actually wants to let go of God. Because I'm so angry and missing my Caleb so, but I just can't stop praying. My Dad died the year before we lost our son. Unexpectedly he was gone, but in my core I believe my Dad and my son are in a place with no pain, just happiness and comfort.

Some days it is so difficult to see the positives. In fact today I've struggled, but eventually I am able to sit back and take a deep breath and remind myslelf that I am so thankful for all the blessings. My Caleb was and is a blessing. He gave us so much hope that a family is possible. We seriously had begun giving up hope when we concived him. Yes, I believe God blessed me with my boy.

I'm so sorry you lost your son. I hope you don't let yourself feel guilty over these completely normal questions and feelings. I think so many of us completely relate. I'm wishing you more good moments than bad and some peace, somehow. At minimum we'll support you here.

Codes (Paris): 
Comments (Bakker): 

struggle, but also affirmation of belief; belief in afterlife strong and a source of comfort