ID:
036
Type of Post:
comment
Keywords:
God
Religious Affiliation:
unknown
Type of Loss:
neonatal loss of twin
Codes (Bakker):
Age at time of post:
unknown
Living children at time of post?:
yes
Time Since Loss:
1 year, 9 months
Months since loss (at time of post):
21
Gender:
F
Images in Post:
NA
Date of Post:
8/12/2009
Date of Access:
7/10/2012
Number of Comments:
NA
URL of post:
http://www.glowinthewoods.com/home/2009/8/12/the-passing-through-of-necessary-spaces.html#comment5100931
All I can do is gasp and nod and let the tears come, if they want.
I *hated* hearing, "at least you have Joshua;" *despised* receiving the "Congrats on Your Baby Boy!" cards only after my surviving son came home from the hospital; *resented* keeping silent because talking about our birth/death/NICU/what-have-you experiences were "too upsetting" for others.
I can't stand the fact that my MIL parades my youngest son around as the 'healthy' one, the 'natural' one-- the one who "came out perfect"... the same woman who told me that "God knew I couldn't handle two at once."
My son's death has given me my voice, among other things.