5 weeks ago our baby Alice was born at 20 weeks and died a short time after. I am not religious. I don't believe in God, or heaven or the power of prayer. My husband is a scientist and his parents are atheists and although I was sent to church as a child, I have not believed in God since I was a child.
When Alice first died I thought it would be easier if I did believe - easier to explain to our 2 1/2 year old where Alice has gone. But we didn't. We explained the facts the best we could and continue to talk about it.
Many kind people have sent us their prayers and I always thank them regardless of my beliefs. What I don’t enter into are discussions about it being ‘God’s will’ that Alice has died. I just hope that people respect my beliefs in the same was I respect theirs.