What do you wish you could say?

I wish I could tell everyone that tells me to be grateful that "At least your daughter lived and is healthy" that just because I have one healthy baby doesn't cancel out the fact that there were two. My daughter's health is not balance for my son's death, it doesn't cancel it out. Yes, I do have a baby whereas many women leave the hospital empty handed, but I was pregnant with TWO, the second being my only son who has died. I also would like to shove "It wasn't meant to be, or It's God's will" up the asses of the insensitive jerks who seem to use those phrases when they haven't got anything to say. I don't believe for one minute God intended my son to die, nor do I believe that his life was not meant to be. I would also like to tell my family who felt their Vegas vacation was more important than the funeral of my dead son that they are a disgrace to the human race and God forbid one of your children dies and no one from the family attends the funeral. They can rot as far as I'm concerned. I used to feel embarassed that not one member of my family attended my son's funeral, now I am enraged.