Author: 
Roxanne
ID: 
083a
Type of Post: 
discussion
Keywords: 
God
Religious Affiliation: 
presumed montheist
Type of Loss: 
neonatal death at 7 days
Codes (Bakker): 
Age at time of post: 
unknown
Living children at time of post?: 
no
Time Since Loss: 
5.5 months
Months since loss (at time of post): 
5.5
Gender: 
F
Images in Post: 
NA
Date of Post: 
1/23/2011
Date of Access: 
6/22/2012
Number of Comments: 
NA
URL of post: 
http://www.glowinthewoods.com/discussion/post/1380150#post1380572

UGH, Mandy, I am so glad you posted this. I don't even want to leave my house, go on Facebook, or spend time with anyone because I am afraid I wil hear those happy words spoken yet again. 2 cousins, 3 "close" friends, 2 high school friends... I feel like it's a personal insult, as though they planned it to be a slap in my face: HAHA, your baby died, but WE can have a baby and YOU CAN'T!! Which of course, isn't true. We're all in our 20s and 30s- of course people are getting pregnant.
I am in a place right now where I can't interact with those people, save for one who had a miscarriage before her current pregnancy and at least somewhat understands what we went through with Colin.
Frankly, I am angry at my friends and family who are pregnant. I am systematically erasing everyone who mattered, convincing myself that they never really mattered in the first place-- and none of them were ever really there for us when Colin died anyway. It's a lonely place. I don't know how to overcome the pain of dealing with others' happy news, in a similar situation to yours- firstborn child, almost 6 months out...

And agreed with the previous posters' opinions on the "God" issue- If I had not felt like I would be burdening others with my anger, I would have pounded some individuals into the ground over comments like that.

Anyway, I'm not sure why I wanted to tell you all this-- maybe to say, this isn't a great place to be in, so if you can find a way to get around getting to this point, you might try it...

I am so, so sorry for your loss and that you have to deal with this. Thinking of you.

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