Recently, reviewing my blog stats I came across a link back to a christian infertility forum, and a discussion about me and my blog. The general consensus seemed to be pity for me and my lack of faith, and more specifically the women were concerned that my not "knowing Jesus" meant that my grief was "true", and if only I could "know Jesus", "recognise the signs" he was sending me I would be comforted.
I felt kinda weird furtively reading a forum in which I clearly didn't belong, even if the subject matter was me and my dead baby.
I think though, that it's a good example of how I have come across a minority of people who do have very strong faith in a supreme being, and are not willing to accept that I don't.
I think we as dead baby parents should be allowed to grieve in exactly the right way for us. If that means believing in a supreme being/higher power then finet, and if it doesn't that's fine too. We do what we have to do to get by.
negative example of code 4; wishing for respect for lack of religious faith