Amanda, you are correct. People say just about the stupidest things to hurt a babylost parent's feeling. One of my cousin had a baby and it is struggling as well, but still alive. Almost everyday, she posts about how God is good and it's because she still has her baby. By definition does that make God bad because we don't have ours? Or how she knows that God exists because of her miracle baby... God doesn't exist because yours and mine are dead? What stupid sentiments to prove that He exists or not.
ss, I'm sorry that there was no support for you when you had your precious daughter 7 years ago. As helpful as Glow has been to us when our friends deserted us and won't talk about Kaleb (heck, even our family doesn't really. The emotional aptitude of a wombat I think...), I couldn't imagine not having like-minded people.
Em, I agree that there is no such thing as a grey-space in between the black and white issues of life. As Ayn Rand put it in Atlas Shrugged- and I'm summarizing here- compromise (grey areas) is treason to truth.
Suzanne, it is considered a partial, translocated trisomy. I'm sad to say that I know exactly what that means in light of the research I did about the possibilities with Kaleb. I'm glad you got to hold your son in your arms before he died... what was his name? We had six days with Kaleb before I had to make the hardest decision of my entire life. To take him off life support. WTF kinda decision is that to have to make for a parent?!?
Thank you all for your kind thoughts on his 3 month birthday... I'm sure if you even only thought of him once it was more than most of our former "friends" did on that day. Sad, but true. Thank you for the welcome to Glow.