Oh, yes. The letters.
I wrote lots in my head and never sent them. However, I also wrote some on paper/email and did send them.
I sent a letter to my siblings and parents and told them exactly what I thought of their behaviour following the deaths of our three children. About how incredibly selfish they were (and continue to be). None of them ever responded to the letter. What selfish pigs they were and are.
I sent an email to several "friends" who continually spammed me with their annual newsletters which (of course) were all about their children. I haven't heard from them since.
One friend in particular sent a newsletter, and mentioned how she and her husband were grieving about the loss of a good friend. She continued by saying how the joy of her two young children were helping her cope with the grief and the loss of the friend. UNBELIEVABLE. I responded with sharp words, and haven't heard from her since.
I received an email asking how I was on my daughter's (still)birthday one year. I responded to the email by saying that it was my daughter's (still)birthday. I haven't heard from the friend since. That was two years ago.
I remember having lunch with two friends a month or so after Freyja died. One of my friends said that her death was probably for the best. I was so shocked I didn't know how to respond. That was nearly five years ago, and I haven't seen them or heard from them since. We've had two other children die, but not heard from them.
I remember christian friends and family bringing up God's plan or us not understanding his purpose. I now have no conversations at all with any christians about anything. If the topic is brought up, my husband and I leave.
We've lost many people who we thought were close friends. But, I guess you find out who your real friends are when your life literally falls apart.