I approached my preacher about how isolated I was feeling after losing Charlotte. He said people just don't know what to say and they don't want to upset me by bringing it up. I told him I want to talk about her. It is a way to keep her memory alive. I said the exact same thing, I will cry no matter if they bring it up or not.
There are only a couple of people at work that I am truly comfortable speaking to about Charlotte. Sharing my true feelings and what I'm going through. It wouldn't bother me if others brought it up. That would mean they were thinking of me and her. Same goes for church. It has been really interesting to see who approaches me to talk and see how I'm doing. Of all places, I think they are the worst at knowing what to really do. Both of our families are great about including Charlotte in conversations or talking to us about everything we're going through. And we have a few friends that still ask and are comfortable bringing up the subject.