Author: 
Julie (c)
ID: 
022a
Type of Post: 
comment
Keywords: 
God, Christian
Religious Affiliation: 
Christian background
Type of Loss: 
2 stillbirths
Codes (Bakker): 
Age at time of post: 
unknown
Living children at time of post?: 
yes
Time Since Loss: 
16 months and 4 months
Months since loss (at time of post): 
16
Gender: 
F
Images in Post: 
NA
Date of Post: 
1/11/2010
Date of Access: 
6/19/2012
Number of Comments: 
NA
URL of post: 
http://www.glowinthewoods.com/home/2010/1/11/birthing-a-dying-child.html#comments
Author blog title: 
http://thebrizardblog.blogspot.com/
Author blog URL: 
http://thebrizardblog.blogspot.com/

I must sit and chew on this for a while before I can articulate how my experiences sit with me. I'm still new to this. And old to this. Sixteen months ago I birthed Beckett. And 4 months ago I birthed Sullivan. And I had to introduce these cold, dead and beautiful boys to my living children and show them that no matter what life gives us we still can survive. I don't know how to do this on a number of days, but I do.

I don't hate God through all of this. Over the past 8 years he/she and I have found a very different, yet closer, relationship than that I was taught in my Christian upbringing. And the verse that I cling to even now is my life mantra.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil.

I'm there. I am IN that valley. Every day for the rest of my life I will either be in it, stumbling up the side, laying at the bottom of it sobbing or looking down into it as I walk along the edge. And yet I feel a peace and comfort that is so much bigger than me...a peace that passes ALL understanding.

Codes (Paris):